Well we've all heard of terrible 2's but no-one warns you about the onset of the threenager, an apt name to describe the strops and tantrums that you may have to endure as they approach 3!
I remember all to well how Jasper turned
into a little brat at the drop of a hat, and it didn't help that I was pregnant
at the time too! Of course he was an angel for his nursery teachers, I've
learnt all too well that children reserve their challenging behaviour for their
parents, as quite rightly it’s their boundaries they are trying to find!
My daughter at three had her moments, but in
fact nowhere near the levels of difficult behaviour I found with Jasper.
2 of my friends are currently enduring the same with their sons, so this
led me to investigate more about the "testosterone surges" that I had
heard whispers about.
Having looked around, it appears that
testosterone levels in boys double between the ages of 3 and 4, which should
settle to normal levels again at around 5 years old. Growth spurts can
also affect their ear canals, so it may be that they can't hear you, not that
they won't listen!
I found this website useful http://www.preschooldirectory.co.uk/adviceboys.html
It appears therefore that we need to show
them patience and understanding, and I know all too well how difficult this can
be sometimes. Try not to beat yourself up if you deal with it wrongly on
occasion, the guilt started at the onset of the blue line on the test stick and
I can't see it getting any less any time soon. I also find when a child
is shouting at the top of their range, instead of shouting louder, almost
whisper your request and they have to be quiet to hear it - thanks mum for that
Thought it was worth sharing?
Thanks for reading.